I asked his feelings on the stroker.....
I'm on my second career and I've done many new things with which I have had little experience. Thus, I have become accustomed to asking questions, not only in an attempt to avoid "reinventing the wheel" but to allow myself the luxury of being ignorant (definition-not knowing). When I ask, I really do want to know what the person I am asking thinks or feels about my particular question. I then take that information, assimilate it, and then make my own decision.
The person answering runs the risk of offending and the person receiving runs the risk of being offended (for many different reasons). I think you might be smarting after being maltreated by Harley and I think this individual with whom you asked his thoughts might have taken too much license with his "venting"-- kind of assuming a closer relationship with you than he actually had (he probably could have been a bit more diplomatic and uderstanding of who he was venting to). Just because you asked the question does not mean he has the right to vent. Kind of an "answer the question or shut up" type thing. You know.
However, I think he would have done you a disservice had he not responded genuinely. Your level of bike knowledge may be light years ahead of mine, had I asked the same question, I might be steered to another bike because I might not know what I want. He seems to be focused on "racing" the other guy. Seems you have a heavy bike (yes?) and want the most power and torque you can muster while having fun achieving it. Just food for thought.
Again, I think it sucks you didn't get the exact bike you wanted.